Tuesday, April 10, 2007

It was literally a SHITTY day

I woke up at 4 am to help hub get ready for work and take care of the baby. It was his first day at his new daycare. Things started off alright. He didnt seem to mind when I dropped him off. He was too busy playing with the other babies to notice me lingering at the door and then finally leaving. I made it to work, to walk into a building that smelled like the bog of eternal stench. After numerous calls to our maintenance dept. we find out that our venting system from the bathroom goes up and out and right back in. Someone must have taken the biggest, stinkiest crap in one of the toilets. Dont get me wrong there is nothing wrong with a good crap, but when you have to spend the day gagging in your office because you are breathing it in it totally sucks. I dont know what was worse the smell of shit or the airfresheners the maintenance dept kept letting off. I had a massive headache by the time I went out to the front desk to work my last hour covering for the receptionist. The phone rang, it was my 11 year old daughter crying. Apparently the kids at school are at it once again. This time they are calling her shamu, and saying ew dont sit next to her she might EAT you. I immediately call the school. I dont even know what I said to the receptionist I was so pissed off, she handed the phone right to the principal. I told him enough is enough. Its going to stop and if you cant stop it I will. I will sit with my child through all of her classes, I will walk through the halls with her, and I will video tape it all. Every last comment will be broadcast on every video channel I can find via the internet. He didnt know what to say other than please come to my office. Please come after hours when it is convenient to you. I said fine. This has happened before so I dont know what he is going to do about it. When I told him she wont even eat at lunch time he said what do you want I have about 2 teachers for a couple hundred kids at lunchtime. I interrupted him with thats not my problem, its yours and if you dont do something about it, I will make my voice heard. I have given enough chances, they have one more. Yes I am apeshit. So anyway, I leave work to pick up the baby from daycare, he is screaming lip quivering when I arrive. I picked him up and he immediately cuddled his face into the space where your boob meets your armpit. I took him to the car and put him in his seat. Then I noticed he had a booboo on his forehead. Likely from a toy or a fall. I know its going to happen but it still doesnt make me happy or comfortable. I start the 45 minute drive home, my transmission is slipping. I cant get the car into drive, I sit rocking trying to make it go. I put it back in park and try again. Three times, it finally goes and we are off. My car sounds like shit and I am afraid that it is going to die. Can I please say FUCK FUCK FUCK? We make it home and I start supper, the baby is in his highchair eating like a little piglet, he is starving, then he starts making these faces at me like he is about to let the biggest bomb go in his diaper. I change him and start running his bath. I no more than wash his face and get him cleaned up then I hear this farting noise coming from the bottom of the tub. Apparently he was not finished. I look and see two more big turds floating around in the water. It was a shitty day. H is asleep on the couch and refuses to eat dinner, my husband looks totally worn out and is arguing with me about purchasing a new car. I know he is right, but I just cant do it. We are just getting on our feet and I do not want to have another payment. It just cant happen. My stupid car has to last at least until we get us into a house. I cant wait to get in bed tonight so this SHITTY day will be over.

4 comments:

alimum said...

I would have thought middle schools were better prepared to handle bullying and teasing now than they were when I was in school. I don't know what to say. have you read Queen Bees and Wannabes? http://www.amazon.com/Queen-Bees-Wannabes-Boyfriends-Adolescence/dp/1400047927

It may help.

I wish I could do more. Just thinking about what your daughter is experiencing is bringing back all sorts of memories from my middle school years. Those evil bitches. What makes me angry is that a lot of them grow up and think what fabulous, good human beings they are and never even think about the damage they caused to the psyches of other humans.

Missy said...

Our district seems to throw an anti-bullying assembly and pull out the "character counts" curriculum at the drop of a hat. There is a woman named "Grandma Bev" who goes around to the schools making presentations.

Really, I think there is more the principal could do. And he could probably get grant money to do it, so tell him to suck it up and figure it out.

And as for the bathtub scene--been there, be thankful it was only floating turds and not something a bit looser.

Jason Dufair said...

Ah, turds in the tub. I hate when that happens.

I second Alimum's suggestion of Queen Bees and Wannabees. My sister-in-law, who is a national award winning middle school teacher, recommended it years ago, when Alyssa was a baby. She said that she saw so many Jr. High girls' self esteem plummet and it was so sad and unnecessary. The book lays out a lot of the mechanisms of it and ways to combat it.

I actually have an extra copy. Send me your snail mail address and I'll get it to you.

Missy said...

Also, another very good book is Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher.